4 ya\u015f\u0131nda bir k\u0131z\u0131n, ablas\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6\u011fretmenine kurdu\u011fu c\u00fcmle. Olay \u015fu \u015fekilde:<\/p>\n
-Sana dondurma almam\u0131 ister misin?<\/p>\n
+\u0130stemem.<\/p>\n
– Aaa yemek de yemek istemiyorsun! Hasta m\u0131 ol\u00addun sen bir tanem?<\/p>\n
+Yemek yemek istiyorum. Dondurma istemiyorum. Onun i\u00e7inde s\u00fct var. S\u00fct istemiyorum.<\/p>\n
– Hay Allah! \u00c7ok severdin sen dondurmay\u0131? Hmm \u00e7ilekli s\u00fct ala\u00adl\u0131m o zaman?<\/p>\n
+Ben \u00e7ilekli s\u00fct istiyorum. \u0130ne\u011fin s\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fc istiyorum… Pipi s\u00fct\u00fc istemiyorum!<\/p>\n
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Evet, yanl\u0131\u015f tahmin etmediniz. \u00c7ocuk dedesi taraf\u0131ndan tecav\u00fcze u\u011fruyor. <\/p>\n
Ve daha \u00f6ylesine ifadeler var ki bu kitapta uykular\u0131m\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131ran, etkisinden kolay kolay kurtulamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m ve kelimelerin anlamlar\u0131n\u0131 yitirdi\u011fi\u2026 Maalesef hepsi ger\u00e7ek, hepsi!<\/p>\n
B\u00fc\u015fra Sanay’\u0131n bu kitab\u0131 insanlar\u0131n g\u00f6rmek istemedi\u011fi, kulak t\u0131kad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve d\u00fcnyan\u0131n her yerinde \u00e7ok fazla ya\u015fanan ensesti t\u00fcm ger\u00e7ekleri ve t\u00fcm \u00e7\u0131plakl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ile ele alm\u0131\u015f; bizi kanayan yaram\u0131zla y\u00fczle\u015ftirmi\u015ftir. Kitapta bir\u00e7ok ma\u011fdurla veya ma\u011fdurlar\u0131n avukatlar\u0131 ile g\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeler yap\u0131lm\u0131\u015f ve olaylar b\u00fct\u00fcn \u00e7\u0131plakl\u0131\u011f\u0131yla anlat\u0131lm\u0131\u015f. Okurken kan\u0131m dondu, g\u00f6zlerim ya\u015fard\u0131 ve yeri geldi yutkunamad\u0131\u011f\u0131m yerler oldu. Bu kadar m\u0131 i\u011fren\u00e7 bir toplum olduk biz, ya da hep mi b\u00f6yleydik de kimse sesini \u00e7\u0131karamad\u0131. \u0130\u00e7indeki ya\u015fant\u0131lar kitab\u0131n ad\u0131 kadar a\u011f\u0131r asl\u0131nda sat\u0131rlar\u0131 okuduk\u00e7a ezildim ger\u00e7ekler alt\u0131nda. Benim okumaktan korktu\u011fum olaylar\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcc\u00fck bedenler ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f. Ve gen\u00e7 ya\u015fta b\u00fcy\u00fcmeye, bu zorlukla ya\u015famaya mecbur b\u0131rak\u0131lm\u0131\u015f. Kitapta ensestin her kesimden insanda, her kesimden b\u00f6lgede olabilece\u011fini a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a g\u00f6r\u00fcyoruz. D\u0131\u015far\u0131dan bak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ne kadar normal, elit, orta halli olarak g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fcz ailelerin kapal\u0131 kap\u0131lar arkas\u0131nda ne ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilemiyoruz, i\u015fte bunlar buz da\u011f\u0131n\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fcnmez y\u00fcz\u00fc. Ayr\u0131ca kitapta anlat\u0131lan bir di\u011fer rahats\u0131z edici durum ise ma\u011fdurlar\u0131n anneleri s\u0131rf ekonomik sebeplerden \u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fc bu durumlara ses \u00e7\u0131karm\u0131yor, ya\u015fan\u0131lan her \u015feye \u00fc\u00e7 maymun edas\u0131nda yakla\u015f\u0131yor (s\u0131rf rezil olmamak i\u00e7in, a\u00e7 kalaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc i\u00e7in yani “ben” merkezli oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in) bu ak\u0131l al\u0131r gibi de\u011fil ve bunun ad\u0131 k\u00f6t\u00fcl\u00fck. Bununla birlikte e\u015fleri kendilerini de\u011fil de \u00e7ocu\u011fu se\u00e7ti\u011fi i\u00e7in kendi \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na d\u00fc\u015fman olan ” kocam\u0131 ba\u015ftan \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131n” s\u00f6zleriyle zaten y\u0131k\u0131lm\u0131\u015f masum bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 daha da alt \u00fcst eden s\u00f6zde anne (!) profilleri de mevcut. Bu insanlar aciz, ezik ve ger\u00e7ekten k\u00f6t\u00fc insanlar. Maalesef ki bunlar\u0131n hepsi ger\u00e7ek ve ben kald\u0131ram\u0131yorum bu ger\u00e7ekleri.<\/p>\n
Kitaptaki bir di\u011fer tespit ise bu istismarc\u0131lar\u0131n \u00e7o\u011funun ge\u00e7mi\u015finde cinsel istismar ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f veya ensest ma\u011fduru ki\u015filer olmas\u0131d\u0131r. H\u00e2lbuki bunun k\u00f6t\u00fc bir \u015fey oldu\u011funu biliyorsun, sen o ac\u0131y\u0131 \u00e7ekmi\u015fsin neden bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n da d\u00fcnyas\u0131n\u0131 karart\u0131yorsun ki hangi hakla, hangi kanunda yaz\u0131yor bu. Bence bu olaylar\u0131 ya\u015fayan bireyler bu olaylar\u0131 g\u00fcn y\u00fcz\u00fcne \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131p tedavi g\u00f6rmeleri gerekiyor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bir zaman sonra ma\u011fdur “su\u00e7lu” haline gelebiliyor.<\/p>\n
Kitap sonras\u0131nda \u00e7evreme, d\u0131\u015far\u0131daki insanlara bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131m o kadar \u00e7ok de\u011fi\u015fti ki her zaman kafamda “acaba bu da m\u0131?” sorular\u0131 gezer oldu. O kadar korkuyorum ki ileride bir \u00e7ocu\u011fa sahip oldu\u011fumda onu koruyamazsam, onun sessiz \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 duyamazsam diye. Asl\u0131nda anlatacak \u00e7ok \u015fey var lakin ne ben anlatabilirim ne de bu d\u00fcnya bunu anlayabilir. Son olarak da anne- babalar, abi- ablalar \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131za onlar\u0131n izni olmadan bedenlerine dokunulmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131, kendilerini g\u00fcvensiz hissettirecek durumda \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131k atamalar\u0131n\u0131, \u00e7ocuklara hay\u0131r demeyi, \u00e7ocuklara cinsel e\u011fitim verip, \u00f6zel b\u00f6lgeleri \u00f6\u011fretilmeliyiz, cinsellik konusu a\u00e7\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda \u00e7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 ay\u0131play\u0131p susturulmamal\u0131y\u0131z.<\/p>\n
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